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Quieten your mind and soften your tension

By Ed Percival, Shirlaws Business Coach

Now that you have begun to have your inner voice  as an instrument rather than as a terrorist, let’s put it to work on your behalf.

This is one way to quieten your busy mind.

It also seems to help the preparation for sleep for some people.

Take a deep breath.

Let it go completely.

Make the next breath softer and let that go completely.

Keep making each breath softer than the one before.

On each out breath, say the word” Soften” gently to yourself.

Put your attention into the muscles in your forehead and aim the “ Soften” at them until they have softened completely.

Then gently allow your attention to drift down to the muscles around your eyes and tell them to soften.

Once they have responded, go to the muscles around your mouth and up around the hinges of your jaw.

Keep softening until your face is completely soft, softening your breathing as you go.

Then put your attention to the muscles at the back of your neck. These are bigger, so it might help if you notice first which side of your neck is more tense then get to soften on that side first. Soon that will be softer than the other side, so you can switch sides to soften. Keep switching sides until your whole neck is soft.

Do the same with your shoulders , then your upper back and finishing with your lower back.

Once your system has learned to soften step by step, you can make it happen faster by taking one breath and letting it go and saying “Soften “ to yourself just before you are about to tackle some task or event that would have shown up as a bit stressful before.


Reduce the power that worry used to have over you

By Ed Percival, Shirlaws Business Coach

You will have noticed that many people are really good at worrying about a future that may or may not happen. They can just invest time in processing the possible downsides and naturally creating unhelpful feelings.

When you ask them how much time they put into worrying, they usually respond the same way as when the doctor asks how much alcohol you drink in a week – by fibbing.

What matters is the drain on energy that worry produces.

When you figure out how to diminish the power it had until now, then more energy becomes available for other, more productive pursuits.

Here’s my version of the process Michael Breen taught me.

Think about the one thing you worry about most.

Make a picture that represents that worry.

Notice that the people and objects in the picture are facing you.

Bring up your worrymeter that has a scale of 0-100 and notice the reading that shows how strong the feeling of worry is now.

Duplicate the picture and put it alongside the original.

Move the pictures up and down and side to side to demonstrate to yourself that you are in control here.

Now move the pictures so they turn and face each other and bring them together, so you’re now looking at the edges of the pictures.

Seal the pictures together with duct tape, so nothing leaks from them.

Move your attention to the second most important worry, make a picture and repeat the process.

Once you have taped the second worry pictures together, try to put your attention back to the first worry. Bring up the worrymeter again and notice the new reading.

You can expect that the strength of the feeling has diminished.

Keep working your way through your range of worries and allow their power to reduce.

Put the time you used to spend worrying into something more productive.


Upgrade your most important software - the programme that informs your beliefs about yourself

By Ed Percival, Shirlaws Business Coach

There is a strong suspicion that the way you imagine you show up to the world informs quite a lot of what you choose to believe about yourself and how you behave as a result.

Pause to imagine the image you have of yourself now.

Notice how old that image is. Many have a self image that has been in their mind for many years.

Perhaps that image is the most senior software in your mind and informs lots of things about who you are being now.

Before replacing that image with a more useful version, take a moment to notice some of the characteristics of your current self image.

Did you make it life size? Or smaller? Or larger?

Is it in black and white? Or sepia? Or in colour?

Is it dull or bright?

In focus or fuzzy?

Still or moving?

Flat – 2 dimensions? Or is it 3D and more solid?

Did you put it in a frame, or is it unbounded?

What sounds come from the image?

What does your inner voice do when you bring up this image?

When you move the image closer to you, what happens to the feeling it creates?

Put it back where it was.

Now, just beyond that current image, create a new upgrade by making an image of you standing in your power.

In particular, make it life size, bright and moving elegantly.

Upgrade the way you dress and add at least a splash of vibrant colour.

Soften your gaze so you can see your aura is now bright and sparkling.

Open your heart and fill it with unconditional love for yourself – the limit of your ability to love another might well be the limit with which you love yourself.

Do the same with forgiveness.

Have an inner voice that cheerleads you by encouragement and support for your efforts.

Upgrade whatever has been missed.

Attach invisible elastic rope to the image and connect that to the wall behind you.

Hold the image in place for a moment and then let go so the new image comes flying towards you.

Catch it in your head and your heart. Make sure you embody your new image.

Allow yourself permission to live into the new you.


The art you could create is often hidden

By Ed Percival, Shirlaws Business Coach

It is said that Michelangelo waited for a block of marble to reveal to him the artwork he could create from it.

Then he just chiseled away to remove anything that was not part of the figure.

When you meet someone and there is a possibility to work or play together, pause and look at the potential  you can visualise.

Wait until you can see a work of art there. Only then begin to commit your work to liberate the art within.

Now, the people you meet won’t be blocks of marble, so you’re going to need to explore using all your senses to figure out their potential for your magic.


Less effort makes a more quiet impact

By Ed Percival, Shirlaws Business Coach

The suspicion is that the more effort someone puts into a performance, the less impact the performance makes.

The outstanding practitioners in any field make it seem easy, because they are so good that they can perform without effort.

When you begin to pay attention to outstanding performers in any field, whether that’s coaching, waiting on table or presenting on TV, you’ll get the point.

Too loud, too much effort equals “trying” too hard.

Once you have mastered a skill just perform it effortlessly.

Do that, and your audience will relax and be drawn to you.

Leave the raised voice and effort to the others, the mediocre.

On your journey to mastery, practice each element until it has become effortless.

In that way, you build mastery step by step.

Making little quiet impacts along the way.